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Evolving Women: Healing Sanctuary

Evolving Women:  Healing Sanctuary - Activating Mind-Body Healing For Women Journeying With Cancer

Note from Mary: Evolving Women website is the creation of my daughter Lauren's dear friend, Cindy. It is possibly the best website I have ever had the pleasure of seeing. Cindy is not only a most beautiful woman, but one with so many gifts, which she generously shares with us She is truly a blessing to this world. I highly recommend every page, every blog, every YouTube video, every product, every podcast, and every resource that she provides.

And if that weren't enough, please check out her book, The Healing Journal: A WOMAN'S GUIDE TO CALM, COMFORT & HEALING

If you’re navigating a cancer journey
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, alone and afraid
If you long to feel understood and supported
If you’re needing guidance and clarity
(Or supporting a loved one who is)

Then the Healing Journal,
from cancer thriver Cindy Scott, is for you.

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LGBTQ Scholarships

Looking for LGBTQ scholarships that will make college more financially feasible? There are a number of scholarships specifically geared toward LGBTQ students, so we’ve rounded up some great options to pursue.

For those that identify as lesbian, gay, transgender, or bisexual, the challenges can be intense. The Pew Research Center found in 2013, that bisexual students have a lower rate of graduation from college.

As a result of this, LGBTQ students are historically underrepresented in college populations. Many organizations have been created to assist with this by offering LGBTQ scholarships to help fund these students’ educations.

The following list outlines information for a few of the available LGBTQ scholarships and where to go to apply. Utilize this list not as an exhaustive guide, but a tool toward finding the resources you may need in order to fund an education.

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Substance Abuse in the LBGTQ Community

Heterosexism may affect gay and bisexual men, lesbian, transgender, and queer individuals (LGBTQ) people by causing internalized homophobia, shame, and a negative self-concept. It is not surprising to find that many LGBTQ individuals in therapy report feeling isolated, fearful, depressed, anxious, and angry and have difficulty trusting others. LGBTQ individuals may resort to substance abuse to cope with negative feelings. It is argued that the stigma and resulting tension of being a member of a marginalized community (i.e., LGBTQ) cause some members to manage these additional stressors by using psychoactive substances.

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What God Says to the LGBT in Addiction Recovery

Despite advances in research and awareness, the LGBT community continues to suffer the social stigma of being different. This constant isolation, along with the fear of “coming out,” is contributing to the high prevalence of substance abuse among lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenders.

 According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the LGBT sector is thrice more likely to abuse narcotics and alcohol, three times more prone to engage in risky sexual behaviors (thus opening them up to HIV infection), and eight times more vulnerable to suicide and self-harm. The percentages drop significantly when they are accepted by their families and social circle.

But the stigma is very real. The fear of coming out is rooted in the fact that a large number of them are rejected by their families. In fact, the CDC reported that 4 in 10 of homeless youths in the US are members of the LGBT community.

The 2015 National Survey on Drug Use and Health also said that the members of the LGBT community are twice as likely to use narcotics and opioids in the past year. About 3 in 10 of them have used marijuana during the same period, and 1 in 10 of them has abused prescription opioids. Meanwhile, LGBT members age from 18-64 has reported binge-drinking more than heterosexuals.

Adolescents are especially vulnerable because their hormones are going haywire and they are still finding their identities. In fact, 9 in 10 of lesbians, gays, and bisexuals are likely to experiment with substances compared to their hetero counterparts.

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Free Grants For Veterans

Find Free Grants For Veterans in all 50 states and major cities

Our website provides comprehensive details on grants for veterans. These grants are given away for free, and they could help low income veterans with bills, mortgage, rent, housing, college, and medications . Please note that grants are only given for veterans who can prove financial difficulties. Apply for multiple grants to ensure your needs are met.

We offer information on the following :
(1) grants for rent (2) housing assistance (3) help with bills (4) education grants (5) medical bills grants (6) business grants

Free Grants For Veterans

Grants For Native Americans

Comprehensive listing of Native American Grants in all 50 states and major cities

Our website provides detailed information on Native American Grants that could help low income individuals and families [two parent and single parent] with grants and scholarships.  Assistance is offered free of cost to eligible families who can offer sufficient documentation to prove financial hardship. These programs help with the following :

  • rent 
  • medical bills
  • college scholarships
  • medication 
  • utility bills 
  • mortgage
  • child care

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Free Grants For Women

We are the largest source of grants for women

Listed here are free grants and financial assistance programs hat help women with medication, housing, medical bills, rent, utility bills, child care, education, and mortgage, among others. Find grants faster here since

  • we have listed grants by state,
  • there is a database of organizations that give grants to women
  • you can search for grants in all popular cities.

Free Grants For Women

Suicide Prevention

Canada     1-833-456-4566            Trans LifeLine – All Ages 1-877-330-6366

Wonder drug: Ketamine can lift you from deep depression within minutes of administration

There is no shame in having suicidal feelings.  There is no reason you should not ask for help.  If you don't have a trusted friend or relative, call one of the numbers above.

All you have to say is, "I NEED HELP!"

Always remember:  Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary situation!

You may feel like things will never change, but things ALWAYS change.  There are new meds being developed all the time, and situations DO change. 

If you had terminal cancer and were offered a life-saving drug, I would hope that you would take it.

Suicidal feelings are a health issue just as cancer is a health issue.  If you would get help for your body, why would you not get help for your mind!

Please give life another chance.

Feel free to email Mary.   I'm here for you.


Drug, Alcohol & Smoking Addiction Support Links

Note From Mary:  I receive many requests a week to post free advertising links to this page. 
Please know that I am no longer accepting links, nor will I bother to respond to the requests.

Addiction Group - no affiliations to any rehab centers, we aren’t sponsored, and we display no advertisements on our website. - Drug and Alcohol Addiction in the LGBTQ Community Signs of Addiction: Drugs, Alcohol and Prescription Drugs

Alcohol Rehab Guide

Alcohol-Related Medical Conditions

American Addiction Centers

Can a DNA Test Predict Addiction? - KnowYour Drug and Alcohol Treatment - Struggling With Addiction? You're Not Alone, We're Here To Help

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L-Fund - assists Lesbians in the Coachella Valley to resolve short-term financial crises, unlike traditional social service or financial aid agencies that deal with long-term assistance.

The L-Fund's established reserve account often allows them to respond to a request within 24 to 48 hours. "This is the only Lesbian organization in the valley to provide immediate financial relief in an emergency situation," says L-Fund's President, Barbara Carpenter. The emotional outpouring from gift recipients creates a sense of community that inspires the Core Group, co-founders and president to do more.

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Elementary & Secondary School Resources for Inclusive Education

I am blessed to live in Canada where gay marriage has been legal for many years. I am further blessed that gay marriage was just the beginning, and now I am seeing advancements taking place in our elementary and secondary school systems to actively teach both staff and students about the respect that every individual and family deserves.

Literature has been compiled and laws have been passed to assure a healthy society which respects diversity of all kinds.

Specifically I am pleased that I was granted permission to make available to you the resources that are available to us.

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Equity and Inclusive Eduation StrategyOntario's Equity and Inclusive Education Strategy (34 pages)

Embracing diversity and moving beyond tolerance to acceptance and respect will help us reach our goal of making Ontario's education system the most inclusive in the world. We believe - and research confirms - that students who feel welcome and accepted in their schools are more likely to succeed academically. We believe that everyone in our publicly funded education system - regardless of background or personal circumstances - must be welcomed and accepted, and thereby enabled to reach their highest potential.

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Ex-Gay and Exodus International Support

For Those Who Have Been Hurt By These Anti-Gay Ministries

See also Ex-Gay Videos

Terrible Harm from those Wacky Gay "Cures" - excellent article by Peterson Toscano

Peterson Toscano's Website - A Musing: A Quirky Queer Quaker performance artist and scholar - an ex-gay survivor and Creator of Doin' Time in the Homo No Mo Halfway House.

Anything But StraightAnything But Straight: Unmasking the Scandals and Lies Behind the Ex-Gay Myth

The real story behind “ex-gay” ministries and reparative therapy!

Nationally known activist Wayne Besen spent four years examining the phenomenon of “ex-gay” ministries and reparative therapies—interviewing leaders, attending conferences, and visiting ministries undercover as he accumulated hundreds of hours of research. The result is Anything but Straight: Unmasking the Scandals and Lies Behind the Ex-Gay Myth, a groundbreaking exposé of the controversial movement that's revered by independent religious groups and reviled by gay and lesbian organizations.

The book presents a historical perspective on the dispute, examining “ex-gay” groups such as Love In Action, Exodus International, Homosexuals Anonymous, and profiling a cast of characters that includes Pat Robertson, the Rev. Jerry Falwell, “ex-gay” poster boy John Paulk, National Association of Research and Therapy of Homosexuality activist Richard Cohen, and psychiatrist Dr. Robert Spitzer

American Psychological Association: ‘No Evidence’ In Support of Ex-Gay Therapy - by Wayne Besen - There is “no evidence that sexual orientation change efforts work.” This was the American Psychological Association’s verdict on “ex-gay” therapy after an appointed task force of experts studied the issue for two years.

Beyond Ex-Gay - An online community for those who have survived ex-gay experiences

Truth Wins Out (TWO) - Fighting Right Wing Lies and the "Ex-Gay" Fraud

Darlene Bogle - Author of A Christian Lesbian Journey

"I was a former leader in Exodus International and directed an ex-gay ministry in Hayward, California in the 1980's and early 1990's where I was an assistant pastor in a Foursquare Church. I had been a national spokesperson for ex-gay ministry, having appeared on such programs as Sally Jesse Raphael, CBS 48 Hours and Jerry Springer. During that time I authored several books and hundreds of articles promoting an ex-gay lifestyle. My life and ministry changed at a women's retreat as I was sharing my journey of emotional healing, when I met Des. Our instant attraction grew into love and we began our journey of discovering who we were as gay Christians. . . . ."

Ex-Gay Consumer Fraud Division - Excellent Resources!

Ex-Gay Watch - News and analysis of exgay politics and culture - "I founded the Ex-Gay Watch web site in 2002 to promote new voices in the social dialogue regarding so-called ex-gays.

After two years of writing 20 hours per week (or more) about ex-gay political activists, I began to run out of energy and time.

XGW could have ended right there, but two excellent writer/researchers - Daniel Gonzales and Timothy Kincaid - stepped in, rescued Ex-Gay Watch, and took the project to the next level. At a time before 'Make it work!' became a popular catchphrase, that's what Daniel and Timothy did - spectacularly.

XGW further evolved with the issues and changing times in 2007 when David Roberts took over as editor and recruited additional writers who were diverse in perspective and geography.

With the web site in capable hands, I'm ready to move on and pursue a more activist approach against efforts by ex-gay political activists to undermine equality, freedom of speech, religious freedom, and sexual honesty.

The specifics of that different approach will be announced in the near future. Meantime, Ex-Gay Watch has exciting plans of its own.

Best wishes to the writers and commenters of Ex-Gay Watch. As a certain hero of mine would say: 'Carry on!'" ~ by Auf Wiedersehen

Former Ex-Gay Leaders Unite in Opposition to Conversion Therapy ~ July, 2014

Excerpt: "Conversion Therapy, also known as "reparative therapy", "ex-gay therapy," or "sexual orientation change efforts" (SOCE), professes to help lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people to change or overcome their sexual orientation or gender identity. The majority of those who practice this "therapy" often do so with little or no formal psychological training, operating instead from a strict religious perspective, believing homosexuality to be a "sin."

At one time, we were not only deeply involved in these "ex-gay" programs, we were the founders, the leaders, and the promoters. Together we represent more than half a century of experience, so few people are more knowledgeable about the ineffectiveness and harm of conversion therapy. We know first-hand the terrible emotional and spiritual damage it can cause, especially for LGBT youth. We once believed that there was something morally wrong and psychologically "broken" about being LGBT. We know better now. We once believed that sexual orientation or gender identity were somehow chosen or could be changed. We know better now. We once thought it was impossible to embrace our sexual orientation or sexual identity as an intrinsic, healthy part of who we are and who we were created to be. We know better now. Looking back, we were just believing (and sometimes teaching) what we had been taught - that our identity needed mending. We grew up being told that being LGBT was disordered, sick, mentally ill, sinful, and displeasing to God. We grew up being told that loving, same-sex relationships were shallow, lust-driven, deceived, disordered, and impossible.

Read the full Article on the NCLR website.

Exodus International To Shut Down ~ June 19, 2013

Excerpt: Exodus International, the oldest and largest Christian ministry dealing with faith and homosexuality announced tonight that it's closing its doors after three-plus decades of ministry. The Board of Directors reached a decision after a year of dialogue and prayer about the organization's place in a changing culture.

"We're not negating the ways God used Exodus to positively affect thousands of people, but a new generation of Christians is looking for change - and they want to be heard," Tony Moore, Board member of Exodus. The message came less than a day after Exodus released a statement apologizing to the gay community for years of undue judgment by the organization and the Christian Church as a whole.

Gay Men Sue Counselors Who Promised To Make Them Straight ~ Nov 27, 2012

Excerpt: Before Sheldon Bruck told his orthodox Jewish parents he was gay, the teenager looked for a way out of homosexuality.

His search led him to JONAH -- Jews Offering New Alternatives for Healing -- which claimed on its website to help people "struggling with unwanted same-sex sexual attractions."

JONAH co-director Arthur Goldberg promised Bruck, then 17, that "JONAH could help him change his orientation from gay to straight," according to a consumer fraud lawsuit filed Tuesday against JONAH, Goldberg and a JONAH counselor.

"This is the first time that plaintiffs have sought to hold conversion therapists liable in a court of law," said Samuel Wolfe, a lawyer with the Southern Poverty Law Center.

Read the full Article on CNN U.S.

Christian Group Backs Away From Ex-Gay Therapy ~ June 27, 2012

Excerpt: The president of the country's best-known Christian ministry dedicated to helping people repress same-sex attraction through prayer is trying to distance the group from the idea that gay people's sexual orientation can be permanently changed or "cured."

That's a significant shift for Exodus International, the 36-year-old Orlando-based group that boasts 260 member ministries around the U.S. and world. For decades, it has offered to help conflicted Christians rid themselves of unwanted homosexual inclinations through counseling and prayer, infuriating gay rights activists in the process.

Read the full Article on YahooNews

Former Ex-Gay Ministry Leader Comes Out, Recants Previous Teachings ~ by Zack Ford, Oct 11, 2011

John Smid resigned as Love in Action's executive director in 2008 and since then has slowly been rethinking his understandings of sexuality and his beliefs about homosexuality.

Excerpts: NO ONE CHANGES: "One cannot repent of something that is unchangeable... I also want to reiterate here that the transformation for the vast majority of homosexuals will not include a change of sexual orientation. Actually I've never met a man who experienced a change from homosexual to heterosexual."

NOT JUST BEHAVIOR: "I used to define homosexuality or heterosexuality in terms describing one's behavior. I thought it made sense and through the years often wrote articles and talked from that perspective. Today, I understand why the gay community had such an issue with my writings. My perspective denied so many facets of the homosexual experience. I minimized a person's life to just their sexuality but homosexuality is much more than sex."

Read the full Article on ThinkProgress LGBT .

Insufficient Evidence That Sexual Orientation Change Efforts Work

- Press Release from the American Psychological Association, Aug 5, 2009

Masters & Johnson's Notorious "Ex-Gay" Study Debunked ~ posted by Wayne Besen, June 2, 2009

Exclusive Truth Wins Out Interview with Thomas Maier

For decades, anti-gay organizations have gleefully pointed to Masters & Johnson's 1979 book, "Homosexuality in Perspective", that claimed to cure homosexuality. Indeed, Dr. William H. Masters and Virgina E. Johnson, the husband and wife sex research team, went on Meet the Press on Sunday, April 22, 1979, to discuss their finding that homosexuals could be converted into heterosexuals. The book has since been used by the so-called "ex-gay" industry to "prove" gays could go straight, if they just tried hard enough.

In his groundbreaking new book, "Masters of Sex", author Thomas Maier discovered through investigative reporting that the results of Masters & Johnson's study were entirely fabricated. Virginia Johnson acknowledged that the results were fake. She had actually argued in 1978 that book should never have seen the light of day - but it was already too late in the publishing process to undo the damage.

One can not overstate the importance of Maier's findings. They undo the very underpinnings of the so-called "ex-gay" therapy movement, further showing that there is no scientific evidence or data to support the outdated idea that gay people can become heterosexual through therapy. Indeed, many people who have undergone such "treatment" claim the experience was harmful and that they were psychologically damaged. The American Psychiatric Association says that attempts to change sexual orientation can lead to "anxiety, depression and self-destructive behavior."

Time For 'Ex-Gay' Hordes To March On Washington

I know this is hard to believe, but the "ex-gay" group Exodus International is the next Starbucks. The organization, according to its executive director Alan Chambers, is expanding so fast that it will soon have storefronts on every corner where forlorn homosexuals can pray away the gay.

In 2003, Chambers claimed that there are "thousands of former homosexuals." By 2004, he announced that he knew "tens of thousands of people whom have successfully changed." Last week, Chambers stunned the world when he boasted to The San Francisco Chronicle that there are "hundreds of thousands" of ex-gays. This must have been shocking news to the masses of gay people in San Francisco's crowded Castro neighborhood, that didn't know they were on the verge of extinction. Read more ...

Ex-Gay Group Condemned For Launching Misleading Ad Campaign

Ads Lie About Gay Life and Omit High Profile Failures in 1998 Ad Campaign, Says Besen.

WASHINGTON – Wayne Besen, author of ANYTHING BUT STRAIGHT: Unmasking the Scandals and Lies Behind the Ex-Gay Myth, today condemned ex-gay group Exodus International for running a false and misleading $200,000 ad campaign saying that gay people can become heterosexual through prayer and therapy. Besen says the politically motivated ads grossly distort gay life and fails to mention that leaders of their last high-profile ad campaign reverted back to homosexuality. Read more ...

HIV AIDS Resources - "Hope Is Vital"

Since the start of the AIDS epidemic, more than 78 million people have been infected with HIV and 39 million have died. Acquiring HIV no longer means certain death.

A person on HIV treatment in a high-income setting now has nearly the same life expectancy as a person who does not have the virus. However, only two out of five people living with HIV have access to antiretroviral therapy.

Among people who do have access, great inequities exist. People living with HIV are being left behind because they are not benefitting from health care, employment, education or social protection. This is often due to stigma, discrimination, prohibitive laws and policies or a lack of services. (from UNAIDS)

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Could Your Teenager Be Gay?

Secretly, many parents hope not. But if the answer is yes, there's a lot of support to help you and your child along the journey.

A few weeks before writing this, I bumped into an acquaintance, a middle-aged woman with two teenage sons. I told her I was working on an article about parents of teens who might be gay. "I'm not sure I'd want to read the article," she said quickly. It surprised me that this liberal-with-a-capital-L woman would display such discomfort at the topic. In the following weeks I'd learn, from parents of gay children across the country, that her reaction wasn't unusual.

"I had absolutely no problem with other kids being gay, just not my own child," one mother of a gay teen told me. "I hoped that if I ignored the signs, it would just go away," said another.

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Prison Inmates - Support Resources


These organizations are not necessarily gay-positive but they will help you grow in Christ.

Our Daily Bread

RBC Ministries
PO Box 2222
Grand Rapids, MI 49501
or in Canada write to:
RBC Ministries
PO Box 1622
Windsor, ON N9A 6Z7

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Jehovah's Witnesses Gay Support

A Common Bond is the worldwide support network for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender individuals who were, or still are, associated with Jehovah's Witnesses.

We began in 1980 as a simple mimeographed newsletter, and have since grown into a worldwide network with local chapters and annual international conferences. The mission of A Common Bond is to provide support and comfort to individuals whose sexual orientation is in direct conflict with Jehovah's Witnesses anti-gay teachings. We are here to be your friends and offer you our support and comfort, because we all have shared the experience of being gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Jehovah's Witnesses -- our Common Bond.

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Muslim Support For Gays

Al-Fatiha Foundation - is an international organization dedicated to Muslims who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, and trasngendered, those questioning their sexual orientation or gender identity, and their friends.

Al-Fatiha's goal is to provide a safe space and a forum for LGBTQ Muslims to address issues of common concern, share individual experiences, and institutional resources. The Al-Fatiha Foundation aims to support LGBTQ Muslims in reconciling their sexual orientation or gender identity with Islam. Al-Fatiha promotes the Islamic notions of social justice, peace, and tolerance through its work, to bring all closer to a world that is free from injustice, prejudice, and discrimination.

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Breast Cancer Survivors Writer's Workshops - Whistle Words

Charlotte Matthews is on a mission—a mission of empathy and sharing stories. After undergoing a radical double mastectomy for stage three breast cancer 12 years ago—followed by six months of chemotherapy—she felt overwhelmed, like she didn’t know who she was any more. In spite of all the love and support she received from family and friends, “something was missing,” she remembers. “Cancer diagnosis and treatment tend to be a passive endeavor: you are diagnosed, you are staged, you are given chemo, you are given radiation—all of this passive. But I found that writing was something I could do. I could write. I could make a record of what transpired. And in this way, I regained power, authority.”

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I'd Rather Love Life Than Hate Cancer

I'd Rather Love Life Than Hate Cancerby Julie Barthels

Did you ever feel like your life is heading along in a good direction and suddenly you discover you have lost your map? That's what happened to Julie Barthels in 2010. She enjoyed a busy career as Clinical Director at a rape crisis center, a part time private therapy practice, a renewed relationship with her partner, and training for a triathlon. Then, an aggressive form of breast cancer showed up.

Not sure if she would survive the cancer or the treatment, Julie decided to write a love letter to her two daughters. That letter is the foundation for this book, "I'd Rather Love Life than Hate Cancer". It weaves the story of Julie's journey with cancer and how it offered her its own unique gifts and lessons.

Go to Amazon and "Look inside" to read portions of this excellent book - rated 5 stars out of 5 from 5 customer reviews.

Contact Julie through Christian Gays.


Community Support

Phi Nu Kappa Sorority Inc. - Non collegiate LGBT sorority

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Phi Nu Kappa is active in the LGBT community and its members are community leaders, business owners, and role models. We will continue our proud legacy of sisterhood, scholarship, and leadership into our next 10 years.

We represent women bound together in thought and effort toward a common purpose of self improvement, uplifting all people, rendering service wherever needed, stellar achievement, inspired actions, and the exploration of new horizons.


Youth - LGBTIQ

If you are a young person who is considering suicide, please DON'T!

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

We have been where you are now. We got through it and we can show you how to get through it too. We have answers that you may never have considered.

Remember that God loves you, and with His help we WILL get you through this. We are here for you and we CAN HELP!

Write to Mary and let's talk about it, or talk to someone in the Chat Rooms, or contact The Trevor Project For Our Youth.

Youth Support
In Canada:

In the USA:
Youth Crisis Line 1-800-448-4663
Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453
Boystown National Hotline 1-800-448-3000


Support As A List

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